Category Archives: Nonnie


My Summer of Discontent

This summer has been agonizing for me. I haven’t felt like writing. I haven’t felt like singing. I haven’t felt like moving. I haven’t felt like doing anything! I am waiting … waiting for so many things. I feel that … Continue reading

One of Those Days

Have you ever just had one of those days?  Today has been that day for me.

It started off so well!  I had a massage first thing this morning and that really helped my entire demeanor.  As some of you know, I REALLY look forward to my massage and am so relaxed when I get home.  I guess that’s why the rest of the day seemed so much more frustrating than it usually would have.

One of my tenants griped at my maintenance man at the Meadows Building because, instead of doing what he asked, Ken told him to talk to me about it.  Ok, there are indeed sticker burrs in spots in the parking lot but I had already asked the landscapers to spray them.  Ken is my maintenance man, not my gardener, at the Meadows Building.  It’s not his job to spray and dig up stickers!  I was ready for bear by the time I got down to the Meadows Building.

Yes, I addressed the problem with the tenant.  I also said not to make any changes to the Meadows Building without running it by me first, such as painting and putting up signs, which was done earlier this summer.  Man, did I get ticked! 

I had seen my next door neighbor’s new pavement, right next door to the Meadows Building, and recently they striped it to make for more organized parking.  I can understand that but it wasn’t until today, when a long pickup truck was parked in-between the two buildings, that it became apparent how much room those parking spots were actually taking away from the Meadows Building parking. 

At one time, I hoped to pave my parking lot also but it was way out of my budget so I’ll have to wait a few years.  When they paved next door, they paved to the middle of the space between the buildings but they only own a few feet next to their building so they paved some of my lot.  Ok, no big deal.  I appreciate it.  Thank you.

I have been told that those parking spaces can be used for the Meadows Building also but there is no “Public Parking” sign on those spaces and, since they are now paved and mine are not, it looks like there is a distinct line of demarcation between the two buildings.  The customers for my building don’t seem to be parking there.  Am I being too picky here???

I have mulled and mulled for the past week about the $2k bill I got from my landscapers and, after today, I have decided that I just can’t afford this guy any more.  He takes care of the sprinkler systems at the Meadows Building and my mom’s house and plants seasonal flowers at both places.  But $2,000 worth???  I just can’t afford that, not in this fiscal environment.  After how today went, I was on a roll so I called and fired him.  I don’t know who I’ll get to take it over but I will negotiate a much better deal AND I will make sure that the new landscapers clear all expenses with me before I get billed!

Sitting here tonight and stewing, it finally dawned on me what was wrong.  I don’t like it when people do something and don’t give me fair warning when it concerns something that I own.  Tell me what you are going to do before you do it and I will probably be fine with it but give me the opportunity to do something better or different or more effective or just something MY way.  If you want to pave or paint or stripe or make 35 trips, tell me about it and ask my opinion.  Don’t just assume that I will be grateful!

One thing that I AM grateful for is having Ed’s health back.  I feel like he has been MIA for over a year and I am grateful to his doctors, his nurses, and the technology for helping us.  Yes, there are things he can’t do for a while but that will pass.  We are taking our barge trip for my mom and will sit on the river barge on the Danube with some of her friends and drink a toast to her, we will tell stories about her, and we will celebrate her life.  I know that she will be there also, enjoying everything but the scotch.  I’m glad that Ed will be there because he can enjoy that scotch for her.  I’m also grateful that Ed will be there so he can now enjoy all the walking tours with me and we can be totally exhausted after a fun day … together.

Waiting …

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Hopefully, Ed’s final surgery is scheduled for Wednesday, June 8th.  We will both be SO glad when this one is over and done.  The last time that Ed went to see Dr. John, he listened to Ed’s heart and said it sounded like his heart didn’t know whether to beat fast or slow or what.  When Ed went in Friday to have his blood checkup, the nurse explained to a trainee that Ed had atrial flutter and that his heart beat like this ALL of the time.  I sure hope that explains why he gets weak, out of breath, sleepy…


We finally got the inventory list for Nonnie’s probate.  Now we are waiting on her final tax filing.  Why does this process take so long???

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Lee Scott now has his temporary crowns and is waiting up to 6 weeks for his permanent ones. (sigh)

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That’s just for his upper teeth.  He hasn’t even gotten the temps for his bottom teeth yet.  I know we are in waiting mode right now, but even the temp on his top teeth look great and we LOVE to see him smile!  J

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They have drilled our first well across the street from Nonnie’s property and have been pumping gas.  Now we are just waiting for the first check to see how that well is doing.  We should know by the end of June but we’ve been waiting since the beginning of April for this step.

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We keep waiting for Drake to come home and it has seemed like an eternity.  We really miss him!

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I’m so waiting to become a grandmother!  Kim and Bob are still trying to adopt and I just can’t wait to spoil that child relentlessly!!!

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Donnie’s hubby Curtis is having surgery on Tuesday.  I know what it’s like to wait for your spouse to feel good again.  The last few days are frustrating and never-ending.

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Jennifer’s hubby Roger is having surgery sometime in June.  While waiting is hard, not knowing the outcome is frightening.  That tends to tie your stomach up in knots.

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Jennifer’s daughter Peb is waiting to have her MRI. Jennifer is waiting to get rid of her infection so she can start radiation. Jennifer is waiting to have more genetic testing, which will also help Peb know what to expect in the future.

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I can’t wait until the next Good Ol’ Girls Club meeting!!!  Miss you, ladies!

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I can’t wait until our vacation in August!!!  We’re driving to South Carolina to spend a few days at the beach with family.  Woo-hoo!!!

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Later in the year, we will be taking the trip that Nonnie couldn’t make last year: a river barge trip on the Danube and Rhine.  I am looking forward to seeing some of her old barge mates and drinking a toast to Nonnie.  We miss you, Mom!

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I’m still waiting for all politicians to do what’s right for our country, our state, our county, our cities, and our communities.  Can’t people just work together and get things done?  Do politics and re-election have to be front and center in politician’s minds?  What ever happened to trust?

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We are all waiting for the economy to get better and, for some, that may be the hardest wait of all!

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We all seem to be just waiting…

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Uncoming Surgery

Yes, Ed’s surgery is scheduled for next Thursday at 8 am and it should only take a few hours.  They will “zap” some of the receptors in his heart so the flutter will stop.  They’ve done this surgery, called ablation, … Continue reading

Happy Mother’s Day!

To every mother out there: Happy Mother’s Day! 

Kay and Nonnie

This is my first Mother’s Day without my mom and I’m feeling a little down.  I sure do miss her.  She was opinionated and, sometimes, a royal pain in the a$$, but I loved her.  She demanded a lot from everyone around her but it wasn’t any more than she demanded of herself.  She was stubborn and really pushy when she wanted something but she usually got her way, right or not.  Our politics were almost exactly opposite of each other and we learned not to discuss them unless we were just looking for an argument, which we sometimes did just for the fun of it.  I miss those times. 

I miss the trips we took together, just the two of us.  If you really want to get to know someone, spend three weeks with them non-stop, in a single car, staying in the same tiny room with a miniscule bathroom, constantly together.  We did just that in the UK, driving through England, Wales, and Scotland, taking ferries and trains to and from Dublin.  We met the Duke of Argyll.  We sang as we drove around Loch Lomond.  We teased each other about seeing the Loch Ness Monster and told Drake that we thought we did see one. 

I wanted to see Hadrian’s Wall but I found out that, even in mid-July, it’s darned cold in Scotland and especially at Hadrian’s Wall.  When we arrived there, I told Nonnie that we really didn’t have to make that stop but she wouldn’t let me back out of it.  We dressed up in every sweater, coat, gloves, hat and socks that we had and STILL froze our butts off walking through those ruins!  We laughed about that for years and I’m so glad she made me stop and get out of that car!  Someday I will make Drake take that trip with me so he can see where his ancestors came from.  Ok, ok, I want to make him freeze his butt off to see those ruins also.

Drake will not be here for this Mother’s Day either so it will just be Ed and me this year.  I can sleep late if I want to.  In fact, I don’t have to get up at all, if I don’t want to.  What I wouldn’t give, a few years ago, to be able to do that and not feel guilty about it!  Most years, I usually spent Mother’s Day traveling to some project somewhere.  This year, I just miss my mom and my youngest son. 

If you still have her, never take your mom for granted or feel that she will always be there for you.  Give her big hugs and spend some alone time with her.  Take a trip, just the two of you, and really get to know her.  Tell her just how much you love her and depend on her having your back.  Tell her how much you are proud of the woman she is and the person she helped you become.  Tell her one thing that you’ve never told her before.  Laugh a lot and enjoy that closeness with her.  There are so many people in the world that can’t do that, for many reasons, so count yourself lucky if you can and have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

Hi, my name is Kay. How is Ed?

Ed continues to improve, gaining strength back after the surgery.  Knowing how close he came to a possible stroke, I am amazed at the speed of his recovery.  Surgery on Friday afternoon,  release from the hospital after lunch on Saturday, breakfast at the Snooty Pig on Sunday morning with Misty, and back to regular activities on Monday, including driving a car.  In—credible!

This week has been very, very interesting and I have had a wonderful trip back through memory lane.  We are going to pave the parking lot down at the Meadows Building.  Since we need more parking, I would like to empty and then tear down the old, tin garage down there.  I got a storage building up at Nonnie’s house and we have been going through the old garage, moving stuff I want to keep to the storage building, throwing away the termite-ridden wood, recycling old metal, and dumping what is just totally un-salvageable.  My goodness, the things we have found!

An old recipe book of my great-aunt’s, plus her old reading glasses

  • A Ford Model A User Manual from the 1920’s
  • From the old Meadows Grocery,
    • Two old, wooden counters filled with drawers
    • two counter stools
    • lots of short platforms used as stepping stools and for displaying weekly specials
    • a metal Camel display rack
    • the old cash register
    • two glass display counters
    • A multitude of post office boxes, both metal and wood, and customer windows from the old post office in the Meadows Grocery building
    • The Admiral refrigerator, the kitchen table, dishes, bowls, and cooking utensils from the Meadows Grocery kitchen
    • A wooden trunk full of Nonnie’s toys, journals, and autograph books
    • An old cane rocker
    • Old hand-woven baskets
    • Old bed frames, mattresses & box springs, a dresser and chest of drawers, with personal items and sewing patterns still inside
    • Two old sewing machines
    • Various tables and chairs from various decades

There are just too many items to remember them all.  Unfortunately, most of the wooden items were falling apart, literally, from termite damage but some of the less-damaged items I am going to keep and see if they can be repaired.  I can’t believe all the heavy red oak counters are now mostly destroyed.  I am just thrilled to have the items worth keeping and will not mourn the ones we have to throw away.  I can at least protect the items we have left.

One fond memory, for which I am teased by older family and customers: 

I used to sit on the stools behind the check-out counter when I was a little girl and wait for customers.  I’m quite sure that Nonnie would put me there to contain me, but I don’t remember that part of it.  When a customer would enter, I would smile and say something like, “Hi, my name is Kay.  Who are you?”

I may have lost many things, but I still have those two stools.  And I think I have that precocious child in me still, even after all these years.


The Weekly Synopsis

Monday: my weekly singing lesson.  I’m getting better and better.  I’m practicing the glottal attack now and strengthening my vocal chords.  I actually hit high C without going into my head voice.  I felt like they could hear me all … Continue reading